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Randall | Is it true? http://cnn.aimtoday.cnn.com/news/package.jsp?name=fte/scrawnymen/scrawnymen ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
PlayfulPonderingFishMoon | Hmmmm.... Speaking for myself, I'd like to think that a guy with a more developed body would have as strong a chance as remaining faithful as anyone else, but I suppose I could see why women would be suspicious about it though, of course. I don't think that a man's physique would make me automatically suspicious about his ability to remain faithful, or at least I hope that it wouldn't make me so suspicious, you know.
What I really look for in a potential mate is loyalty and honesty, and I mean, just because somebody keeps their body in good enough shape to get some extra female attention, I would hope that they would still be entirely capable of remaining true to me even with some of that other stuff going on.
I guess I'd try to give them the benefit of the doubt, as well as I possibly could anyway.
I have no idea if that provides any sort of reasonable answer about the question, but I guess it's the best I can do for you, lol. Next response ladies....
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juniperb | If he can`t throw a bale of hay 10 ft into the rafters, he`s out... so nope, scrawny don`t work for me If he`s throwing those bales, he`ll be too pooped to even think of it ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot |
Harpyr | well.. I never really thought about it in this context but I have been more consistently attracted to the scrawny, bookish sorts. |
yousay | Yep |
Eleanore | I think that's a common stereotype. I don't think it's 100% accurate, though most generalizations do have some basis in truth. Nevertheless, it's the same old, made for TV movie ... you know, where the geeky kid in highschool grows up to be successful and have a wonderful family life while the popular jock ends up in a rut with a miserable love life ... the old highschool reunion, turning the tables thing. I've been attracted to both types. I've also noticed that not all "brawny" men are unfaithful or likely to treat you wrong ... nor all they all fun and a great fling. The reverse is also true; not all "scrawny" men are faithful or likely to treat you well ... nor are they all bookish or intelligent. This is just my personal experience, of course. I think men are individuals ... I feel silly stating it like that because I know it's obvious so forgive me, please.
My hubby is a nice mix between the generalizations for both "brawny" and "scrawny", and I like it that way ... because I love him!
------------------ "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Ghandi |
Eleanore | BTW, What is up with this? quote: "When women are choosing mates--except for very attractive women--they're facing a tradeoff of choosing a guy who's very sexy or one who will stick around and treat them well,"
Really, a man can't be both? And what do very attractive women choose? ------------------ "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Ghandi |
Nephthys | I don't prefer scrawny, and I don't prefer brawny; I prefer someone who is right in the middle. |
silverbells | I like regular. But perhaps scrawny suggests that there are brains and that is why that study came out with the results that they did. Who says that a sexy man won't treat you good? Men with low self-esteem, those are the cheaters. They are always trying to prove (either to themselves or others) how desirable and great they are. A lot of very attractive people have low self-esteem and maybe that is where the reputation that they can't be faithful comes from. ------------------ Loneliness makes you strong, only love makes you free - Michael Franks |
juniperb | Humpft, everytime I click on this thread I get a box to connect to mysmilies.ibpfree or some such. ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot |
Eleanore | hey juniperb I just got the same message, twice! Anything going on here ... I mean, is it on purpose like we should follow that link or something?------------------ "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Ghandi |
pixelpixie | Me too. Wierd! and I like scrawny men too, but I also like not scrawny men. To be typical me, I find 'scrawny' men are er...mmm.. um.... *cough*'ample in the britches'...*cough* Just an applied observation. |
juniperb | Don`t connect. If I recall Randalls reply to a past occurance, it`s because someone 'borrowed' a smilie. Aha, it`s the red X on Nephthys post. Mystery solved... ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot |
Randall | Good investigating, Juni! I didn't want to edit Nephthys' Post without her permission. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
lioneye68 | They had to do a study to know this? Women know that sexy men have women flirting with them constantly, and many of them don't care if he's attached already, and we know that many men have little desire or willpower to decline if she's a hottie..."Our mamas didn't raise no stupid girls". Having said that, he still has to be attractive, like at least a 7/10, or I wouldn't be interested at all. However, my 7 could be someone else's 3, or someone else's 10. It's all relative, right? But the same goes for gorgeous women...Ever hear that song that goes "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. If you want my personal point of view, get an ugly woman to marry you" ?? Yeah, men are just as leary to marry a sexy bombshell as women are to marry a hunk-o-licous man. It would be right up there with marrying a rockstar...too much temptation out there, and you can't be with them 24/7. |
pidaua | Juni - I am with you..if he can't throw a bale of hay, load 50lb bags of feed or work out in the pasture.. then he aint the one for me. Most -well almost all - of the men I have dated and the one I married are all strong, strapping men - although the one I married was a bit too lean - he was still very strong. I have found that men that are shorter than me or appear (scrawny) also want to them dominate. Like they have little guy syndrome. Has anyone else had that experience? |
ariestiger | I really don't like musclemen. Somehow, beefy muscles just turn me off. But, each to their own. And we're none of us perfect...I just admire someone more who can get himself out of a tricky situation with wit. I've always been attracted to unusual or nerdy types. It didn't use to be the case with me, but I find that "looks" aren't everything. I think that getting to know the character of someone who's maybe not quite so good-looking (not a turn-off either though!), who is entertaining, can be quite rewarding... I've had first-hand experience of people getting really strung up over this or that physical feature of (whatever person), and I've thought, how shallow can you get? You can't not love someone (if everything else fits into place) just because of ONE ultimately unimportant physical feature? And we all grow old. And quite often the guys who weren't so handsome when they were younger keep their looks quite astonishingly. Look at Dustin Hoffman now - and then look at Robert Redford! |
Eleanore | I love Robert Redford! And I think he always has been and always will be a "hottie". ------------------ "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Ghandi |
Nephthys | Sorry about that.............. I actually wrote to Wacko Burns about that.........it's a fluke on his system that's not supposed to be there. And just to clarify, I wasn't borrowing the smilie, it is a specific website made for smilies to use on BB's such as this. |
Randall | I knew you didn't borrow it; it had the word free in the URL. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
juniperb | Nephthys, I didn`t mean it with an unfavorable connotation Poo and I thought I was pulling off this merc rx. I`m sorry Nephthys, it does sound unkind on a reread. I sometimes can`t tell if a gif is copyrighted or not so I 'borrow' it and ask the uni-verse to cover my butt if I erred with honest intentions. My err in wording and I apologise if it sounded out of line. juniperb ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot |
dorkus_malorkus | I try to limit judging a book by its cover but I am much more drawn to the scrawny, artsy types. I just don't find the muscular jock type very attractive as I'm sure there is a sterotype that goes with that, you can call me shallow but hey I like what I like. Scrawny or nothin babyyyyyy! |
Nephthys | Oh, no problem at all, Juni! |
juniperb | Nephthys you`re a gem. Thank you for your patience and kindness ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot |
Aphrodite | Randall, I don't know because I've never been married before. Sorry bud. A. |